Five Skills to Master before you Find Prince Charming: II

Vulnerability

Can I tell you a secret? When it comes to fast food places, I’d rather go through the drive through than go inside.

In fact, if the drive through is busy, I’ll just pull off and go to another place. I’d rather pull off than step inside. Why? There’s safety inside my car. Stepping into the restaurant means I’ll lose the protective bubble of my car. I’ll be… vulnerable.

My face when I have to go inside

Vulnerability is a skill few of us truly want to embrace. Whether it be going inside the Dunkin or sharing our feelings, opening ourselves up seems way too risky. What if we get hurt? What if we get judged? What if something bad happens? What if?

It’s the what ifs that keep us closed off. There’s safety in our protective bubble. We know what can happen in there. There are no what ifs, no risk.

my happy place

However, love is all about vulnerability. Love is about telling someone else your thoughts and feelings. Sharing the deepest most vulnerable parts of yourself. Love is, after all, an open door.

So, we need to get comfortable with being vulnerable. And I’ve got great news, if you did the compromise exercise we talked about in the previous entry, then you’ve already practiced vulnerability.

By opening yourself and asking for help with your compromise partner, you were practicing vulnerability. You were practicing sharing your thoughts and feelings, with someone! It was a bogo situation! 

We’ve knocked out two of the five skills. Which means we’re sort of almost kind of in a way almost like halfway done! Only Three more to go! Stay tuned because we’re talking loyalty next! And that one will actually have an exercise! No More BOGO!