Five Skills to Master before you Find Prince Charming

How amazing life would be if every love story ended with “Happily Ever After?” Sure, we’d lose out on some amazing breakup songs, but life would be so simple. Just kiss the prince, sing a song, and have a wedding. Boom. Lights up. Roll Credits.

church of the city? sounds like a good Lifetime Movie

But love doesn’t work like that. In fact, love takes work. Hardwork and skill. Skills that you need to master BEFORE you find prince charming. In this series we’ll be going over each skill and how to practice that skill so that your happy ever after stays happy ever after.

Compromise

My Dunkin order is the same everyday and everywhere. A large Hazelnut Iced Coffee with cream and sugar. But there’s only a handful of Dunkin’s that get the ratio of sugar to coffee correct. Its hit and miss at the other locations. When it hits it really hits but when it misses it REALLY misses. Like unbearably disgusting. Its either way too sweet or way too strong. Major swamp water vibes.

I mean I still drink it tho

Good relationships, like good iced coffee, are all about developing the perfect ratio of your wants and needs to the wants and needs of your significant other. How do you find that perfect ratio? You compromise. You give a little, they give a little and you end up with an amazing iced coffee. I mean relationship.

Compromise is a skill we initially learn as children. We take turns on the slide or we share the coolest toy in the toybox. But as we get older, we tend to get a little more selfish. It’s our way or the highway. WE need to get back in touch with our inner child and start sharing the cool toy again. So practice compromise. 

This is a foot’s nightmare!!

Grab a friend, sibling, or even a coworker and ask them if they’ll help you in strengthening you compromise muscle. Choose someone you’re close enough to in order to feel supported but also someone who will hold you accountable.  If you both decide to go out to lunch, let them decide where to go this time and then tell them you’ll decide next time. Same thing for going to the movie, or who’s house you’ll be hanging out at, or what activity you’ll be doing for the day. Really get into the skill of sharing the decision making as a team. 

but not like this. this is not how people use laptops

Give yourself a good solid month of this practice and see how easy compromise becomes for you. If it doesn’t feel like second nature for you, start the practice again for another month. There’s no limit on how much practice you can get. You’ll need all of it! Developing this skill will get you ready for the next skill, vulnerability.